There are numerous groupings, and then sub-groupings, of older males (those falling beyond the cut-off) Some only prefer the company of much younger females, but are able to make do with what they get. There is another group, one to which I belong, that has total incapacity for real depth of friendship (and ultimately genuine love) for females other than those much younger, not in any way out of selfishness, but purely predisposition. It could be that some of us in my group are driven to suicide at one extreme, and to hatred at the other, as a final consequence of this almost inexplicable, yet relentless rejection. It would perhaps be made easier by having someone to blame, but there never is. These then are the two main groups.
For some it is sexual, either as a preference, or a predisposition (in the same way heterosexuality can be said to be a predisposition) for others it`s fundamentally about age specific chemistry and personality. It could be that many in this group are very young of personality themselves, and perhaps actually tend to have much more in common with younger people generally. This may also be a predisposition, and like is drawn to like. Tougher still for those predisposed, like drawn to like, (other than only the number of years since birth, which is not anyway a characteristic) on every single level. copyright 09 kates