Speaking Generally - all content crown copy 09

What is programming, and also conversely to this, what indeed is free thought?   Put another way then, at what point does programming end, and free thought begin?    Perhaps verbal language might be considered as merely a  window dressing for total communication?  After all, had it not been for language, something, in all probability telepathy, would surely by now have occupied its space.

Telepathy would transform communication as peacocks feathers to our existing lame shades of grey, and only then, and freed from the hideous constraints of verbal language, would our specie for the first time actually communicate first hand thought.  How often can it be said that even in our currently most complex song do we/can we communicate to everyone as though just one?. Free thinking is actually impossible as humans to define because it is simply too mixed up with our programmed human condition.

Males are also programmed to think, to a greater, or, to a lesser extent, in exactly the same kind of way, though it isn`t of course actually thought, for programming is programming, and thinking is thinking.  The amount of actual thinking is comparatively slight, generally superficial, and likely largely programmed thinking at best. That this is social conditioning, (of both sexes, beginning at an early age, and most relevant during females primary years), and therefore a part of the human condition is most likely the main reason for there having been so little written here, though it could quite easily fill books.  It is most certainly a significant part of what we are as humans, or rather, what we have allowed ourselves to be.
It`s very possible that only those males, likely very few, that are genetically predisposed to young females ( as opposed to it merely being a preference) are freely able to function entirely independently of this social programming here, and therefore must be in constant disbelief.  It seems that without predisposition, all-be-it in widely varying degrees, that there actually might only be programming?

There are numerous groupings, and then sub-groupings, of older males (those falling beyond the cut-off) Some only prefer the company of much younger females, but are able to make do with what they get. There is another group, one to which I belong, that has total incapacity for real depth of friendship (and ultimately genuine love) for females other than those much younger, not in any way out of selfishness, but purely predisposition. It could be that some of us in my group are driven to suicide at one extreme, and to hatred at the other, as a final consequence of this almost inexplicable, yet relentless rejection. It would perhaps be made easier by having someone to blame, but there never is. These then are the two main groups.
For some it is sexual, either as a preference, or a predisposition (in the same way heterosexuality can be said to be a predisposition) for others it`s fundamentally about age specific chemistry and personality. It could be that many in this group are very young of personality themselves, and perhaps actually tend to have much more in common with younger people generally. This may also be a predisposition, and like is drawn to like. Tougher still for those predisposed, like drawn to like, (other than only the number of years since birth, which is not anyway a characteristic) on every single level. copyright 09 kates

When friendships such as these are intercepted at the point of going active/doing things together, there is generally no coming back. The friendship is more often ended apart rather than when together, for when together there may only exist perfection. In the unlikely event that things should become active, then the friendship, in its most absolute sense, is ended in that moment that the mans age is realised. The friendships at there very best tend to be dismantling of programming for only a brief time.
It is likely, though probably quite difficult to demonstrate, that many male suicides are provoked, at least in part, by this totally ruthless treatment of friendships, where the male is beyond the cut- off age. Beyond the almost inevitable denial, the loss to the female may be felt with the same gravity.
For many females the cut off age for their friendships seems to be set precisely the same as for their relationships, usually their age plus anywhere up to twelve years. I had over looked this group until now, but my more recent research is beginning to suggest, however alarming, that this group may actually make up the majority of young women. What I`m also learning is that words may be almost meaningless in my attempts of gathering information here, and quite possibly regarding the subject of relationships generally. If the cut off age for friendship is indeed the same as for `relationships`, that would seem to suggest to me that many young women may have incapacity for any great depth of friendship, in the absence of a `relationship`, with males of any age? Half baked friendships aside, they may fair little if any better in the friendship stakes than their male counterparts. No wonder then that they`ll almost invariably misconstrue any real depth of friendship at all, if it also turns out to be an issue as powerful as gender itself, and then put back to back with age discrimatory programming.

Age discrimination in the work place is a major problem, but the problem of social age discrimination has never been more grave, especially with an ageing population. This is one of my more recent fairwells -

You have spoken with your actions/non actions, and this is my reply-
Our genders and respective ages, we are both adults after all, should have been considered entirely irrelevent in a relationship of only platonic friendship. Don`t you ever look to your intuition for answers, rather than merely being led by the stopping and starting of your programming? My website only pays homage to friendship, so that should be a clue. Do you honestly believe, that totally regardless of what you were part of and the friendship that we shared, that all men are actually the same person, or, perhaps I should have said, same animal, and with the same animal objectives.

I was wholly aware that active friendship was going to be a giant leap, as you know all too well, but whatever picture has been painted, this is only a perception, and as hard as it may seem to believe, reality shall never bend to it, nor even realise of its existence.

Do you as an individual honestly consider it resonable that adults, merely on account of how long they`ve been alive, should be singled out to have their friendships destroyed, and this totally regardless of any other consideration, of character, or, of intent. This even before any form of active friendship has even been tested? There are many of all ages, whether this be conciously or not, that rank the top orders of friendship far higher than obsessive emotion, but the top orders are generally unreachable, and so even when much more is being sought, emotion, followed by some assemblance of order, attempts but never quite manages to take its place.

There is risk in every venture, but it is not respective ages, nor genders,which decrees this risk.
The sense of crossing time when these friendships are working at their best creates a special kind of magic usually beyond reach for those of like ages.

Romantic sentiment is the most powerful commodity when delivered such that it fits perfectly, spontaneously fashioned to each appropriately available pause, is from the heart, and most essentially, is yours. One requires activities and even interests in common for companionship to survive, but the most genuine and closest friendships are sustained by chemistry alone.

Without due consderation to the pre-stated, light is almost invariably dark, while no less than light in its visibility, for the hand dealt you and your perception here is only in shades of darkness. All comparisons are only with gloom, other than those from a borrowed imaginations half life. To kiss, even when done most well, is never more than that of flesh - tangible desire laced with desire never quite understood, nor could be, for it`s not of your world. To hope is akin to being hopeless, in a place where hope is scant and hopelessness plenty. The tide is always out before its turning, and when in never to be realised, nor even by accident approached. Life is long, hard, unforgiving, and more than all this, lonely, but it`s what you know, all you know, and now you`ll never know at all, for how`s it even possible to genuinely glimpse, what is actually, a completely other state of being. Matters not whether in death, one, or one thousand are by your bed, for they, with the best will on earth, are realised by you as no more than shades of grey, for they were never quite recorded, nor could they have been, living in your world of islands.

Understand yourself well in order that you may communicate that sense of you, which is most truly you, and not from that dead place of programming and charade. This that you may truly come alive from the depths of your being, timeless, genderless, as though a child, in your child, and take your intellect and your wisdom with you, but always apart from you. You are that person that deep within you most desire to be, so in your all creative, all spontaneous child self, let it be perfect.

I find for me that at the onset the best environment for making new friends tends to be one mostly hurried, such that, operating significantly from instincts, responses are more likely to be more appropriate, and for more of the time - You may begin by knowing nothing but it is precisely then that a sixth sense can go most rewarded. Girls usually want to become familiar with guys at their own speed.

Once the initial interest has been revealed, a studied as well as an intuitive sense of person is required in order that future communications may be ultimately positive. Good instincts, when formulated over another`s actions, a can unfold the decisive layers of any individual.  It is undoubtably the being understood, the empathy between two people, which creates the environment for the closest and most loving friendships.